It can be challenging and very vulnerable to admit that we have inner fears. But without recognizing your inner fears, you can not face what is holding you back from accomplishing your goals and dreams.
Research by our team at FinditHealth found that our inner fears should be used as a guide in everyday life. By using your inner fears as a guide, you can begin striving toward your goals and dreams.
What Are Inner Fears?
First, fear is a natural human emotion that we will all experience. It’s essential to acknowledge inner fears because if you do not address them, this can lead to further issues like anxiety, stress, and other dysfunctional behaviors.
It can be fear of public speaking, fear of spiders, and fear of not being successful. By recognizing your inner fears, you have the opportunity to change the outcome because you can identify what is holding you back from your success. Inner fears are created in our minds, and we are the only ones with control over them. We can either answer them with positive self-talk or negative self-talk.
When you identify your inner fears, you take the first step to erasing the negative effects they bring in your life. We all have unique skill sets and talents that will bring us joy and success in our lives. By conquering our inner fears, we have more time to establish life goals and reach our dream life.
What Are My Fears (Examples)
Fears can widely range and are anything that causes you to feel fear or scared in life. One example of an inner fear is the fear of failing.
This could be moving to a new city, starting a new job, or even starting a new relationship. While it’s normal to experience fear in this situation, it’s important to remember to be objective. While new things come with risks, you must not let your self-confidence go down.
You don’t want to judge yourself or the progress of this new adventure and cause additional stress. Developing and maintaining self-confidence in your abilities is the best way to let go of an inner fear of failure because self-doubt is the true enemy. When you fully believe in yourself and your abilities, you can accomplish anything you set out to do.
What Are The Top 10 Fears In Life?
We polled and found the top 10 fears most of us experience throughout our lives. Regardless of the fear, it’s essential to acknowledge and learn from it so we can keep progressing in life.
Change
This is a pretty big one as most of us struggle with change. We fear and resist it because we are scared of the unknown but you are afraid of taking a risk. This causes you to miss out on many good opportunities that come your way. By resisting change, you are instead becoming stagnant and staying stuck in a loop of life that you are meant to keep evolving.
Being Judged or Compared
Another fear is the fear of comparison or being judged. This is comparing yourself to those around you and how well they are doing to see if you stack up. This can be thoughts of others seeming to have life under control while yours looks chaotic. The trap of comparison only leads to a downward spiral, and it’s essential first to recognize that we can’t assume that we know everything about someone. It’s better to focus on yourself and your own goals and measure your progress in a way that is healthy for your current lifestyle. Don’t base your progress on others’ success around you. We each experience different roads of life and use various tools to achieve our life purpose.
Being Alone
While a short amount of alone time can be healthy, we as human beings are meant to be social creatures. Socializing is a great way to feel connected and at peace with ourselves, but we often dread reaching out and then finding nobody there to respond to our needs. Being alone is also the fear of being ignored or not a priority, which leads to unhealthy habits. Such as staying in bad relationships, never having any alone or reflection time, or even spending all our time online talking to strangers and never getting out to meet anyone in real life. Finding a healthy balance between alone time and surrounding yourself with healthy people and healthy social interactions is essential.
Failure
One of the most common inner fears we face is the fear of failure. This can be a failure at anything from jobs, relationships, and even goals we set for ourselves. We think many of us fear failure because it’s embarrassing to fail. It’s embarrassing to say we were fired from a job or that a relationship ended, and it makes us feel that we aren’t worthy and don’t measure up. This can cause us to avoid situations we could fail in, so we will never grow. This means missing out on life lessons and opportunities that could help you meet your goals.
Not Meeting People’s Expectations
Another fear is that we will not meet other people’s expectations. It’s important to remember here to pursue your own goals and dreams, not someone else’s. So often, we chase or pursue goals that are not ours because we feel like we should or are trying to for something else. You are more likely to succeed when you use your talents toward the goals you want to achieve. It’s also because you will have more motivation towards things you want versus someone else pushing you to do something you don’t want to do. This can be done by creating healthy boundaries and letting others know that you are pursuing your goals and dreams that matter to you. That you respect the opinions of others, but you are choosing to do things because they bring happiness into your life and are helping to create the life you are trying to achieve.
Rejection
Another big fear is the fear of being rejected. This is a massive fear as we fear rejection because we are scared of being vulnerable. This causes us to avoid things and situations where we could get rejected. This can be meeting new friends for coffee, asking a boss for a raise, or deciding to enter a new relationship. It’s important to note that if you let this fear of rejection take over, you will always miss new opportunities for growth in your life.
Unknown
People often avoid trying something different because they fear the unknown. It’s that thought of why try something new when everything is working well because there is no guarantee doing something new will make life better. But it’s also not good to stay in the same rut and remain stagnant. Don’t let the fear of the unknown hold you back on decisions and opportunities that could be great for you. Remember, you can always stop something if you don’t like it.
Getting Sick or Hurt
Getting sick or hurt is never fun but is often a big fear. Fear of being hurt causes us to become emotionally overprotective of ourselves and hold us back from sports and other activities we enjoy. We must embrace that getting sick or having an injury is a regular occurrence in life, and it’s better to focus on being as healthy as we can at the moment.
Bad Things
Bad things will happen, but this fear can prevent people from enjoying life. While we can’t stop bad things from happening, we can’t let these fears stop us from living a fulfilled life. Don’t let the fear of bad things hold you back or keep you in the house. It’s important to remember that every day is new, and we don’t know what will happen.
Not Worthy
Another fear shared by a lot is the feeling of not being worthy or good enough. That feeling of not measuring up so you either become an underachiever or a perfectionist to prove your worth. This is a hard fear to face, and it’s important to remember that other people don’t dictate your worth. If you struggle with this fear, think about growing your self-confidence, so you believe in your worth. We shouldn’t be basing our worth on other people’s opinions of us.
What Are The 6 Basic Fears?
The seven basic fears are the most common we face on this planet. Generally, everyone will experience a fear (or fears) on this list at some point in their life. Think about using each inner fear as an opportunity to grow and learn from the experience.
- The Fear of Being Alone
- The Fear of Connecting
- The Fear of Lack of Recognition
- The Fear of Being Fully Alive
- The Fear of Being Abandoned
- The Fear of Self-Assertion
Conclusion – Research by Findithealth.com
When we let fear control our life, we become powerless and unable to reach our goals and life pursuit. Research from members of FinditHealth found that it is better to challenge inner fears head-on to conquer them.
By accepting and owning your inner fears, you are evolving on your life journey and progressing even more to your goals. This will only make you stronger, more successful, and ultimately happier.